The Cost of Control | Business with Purpose Podcast EP 311: Sharon Hodde Miller

My guest this week is one of my best friends in the world, Sharon Hodde Miller. Sharon is an author, co-pastor at Bright City Church in North Carolina, and she teaches about faith, culture, and the Bible. She is a wife, mom to three kids, and lover of all things Disney.

5:09 – Sharon 201

• This is Sharon’s second time on the show. 
• She has spent the past two years pastoring her church during a pandemic and homeschooling her kids.

8:23 – The Cost of Control book

• Sharon’s latest book, The Cost of Control, is about why we crave control, the anxiety it gives us and the real power God promises.
• Sharon turned inward and realized she was having big control issues at home with her kids and shouldn’t be homeschooling them.  

17:50 – Overwhelming information

• Every time we open our phones to check social media or the news, we are being overwhelmed with information. 

24:05 – Constant access to media

• There’s constant negativity on social media, and that makes some people feel a level of control. 
• We have lost the ability to disagree with each other, and it is costing us our mental health.

37:15 – Coping with loss of control

• When we lose control in one area of our life, we often exert control over other areas. 
• Some people cope with stress by cleaning. 
• God doesn’t give us control, but He does give us agency.

41:14 – Anxiety and red flags

• Anxiety is a big red flag, and your body can tell you a lot about how you’re feeling. 
• Some people clench their jaw, for example. 
• You need to name your problem accurately. Don’t rush past it. 
• You are feeling anxious because you are ingesting news all the time. 

59:24 – Words of wisdom

• Control is something we all struggle with. We know we should surrender and trust God instead of ourselves. 

1:02:08 – Get to know you

• Career change? Work at Disney World
• Guilty pleasure? Disney podcasts

FEATURED QUOTES

It costs us whenever we try to have control, and this isn’t an “if,” it’s a “when.”

God doesn’t give us control, but he does give us agency.

You are feeling anxious because you are ingesting news all the time. 

Honor the limitations of your soul and have boundaries around that.

Control is something we all struggle with. We know we should surrender and trust God instead of ourselves.

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