Learning to Say “No” (& Link-Up)

September 26, 2016·

Dress / Tunic: Threads for Thought “Mia Dress” c/o (On SALE!!)Leggings: LulaRoe black leggingsBag: Lily Jade c/o Choker and Earrings: Nickel and SuedeCuff: Darzah c/oWatch: Wristology Watches c/o (Use code “45” for 20% off)

Photography by Em Grey

You guys, I didn’t blog on Friday. Some of you are thinking, “Really? SO?” Well, the thing is, I almost NEVER skip a post. Ever. I’m a planner and I pretty much plan out all of my posts at least 30 days in advance. I’m crazy. It’s just how I work best…

And I had a post planned for Friday.

But life happened…

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Sometimes, life happens. Sometimes, things get in the way. Sometimes I have just got to learn to say “Nope. I can’t do it. I can’t do it all.” And let go and let GOD. For the sake of my sanity, my family, etc.

I am not great at saying “no.” I’m a people pleaser by nature and I just, naturally, want to help everyone. I want everyone to be happy. I want everyone to like me. I want everyone to think that I’m helpful and dependable and loyal and all the things.

But the truth is, I’m not doing anyone any favors when I do that… because the more I say YES, the more I stretch myself thin and the less I can be helpful and dependable and loyal because I’m too overwhelmed.

To put it simply, I feel overwhelmed right now.

This is not a pity party, this is not me crying or asking for help… this is just me learning to identify my reality and not STAY in that reality. Because the longer I STAY in a state of overwhelmed-ness… the worse it’s going to get. I mean, being overwhelmed doesn’t just magically fix itself? It’s about learning to say NO to some things. It’s about learning to stop, breathe, relax, and give up control.

I’m working on it. It’s a process. I do not have it figured out. I know it will be okay. Sometimes, the simplest thing of skipping a blog post is what I need to kick myself in the butt and refresh and restart.

You know what I mean? Who’s with me on this? Do I sound like a crazy person or do you know what I’m talking about?

On a completely separate and unrelated note… I realize this outfit has nothing to do with my post topic today and that’s cool. Sometimes, wearing a totally comfortable, yet, trendy and edgy outfit on a day when you’re like, “I MIGHT LOSE MY MIND” does the trick for SNAPPING OUT OF IT. Right? Right.

Also, today’s my super hunky husband’s birthday and he’s the best and would be embarrassed to know I’m wishing him a happy birthday on the blog… but I don’t care. I do what I want. 🙂 Happy birthday, babe!! I LOVE YOU!!!!Charleston, South Carolina Anniversary and Maternity Photography with Annamarie Akins Photography (23)

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Welcome back to our regularly scheduled program……..we just finished celebrating Let It Shine’s FOUR year anniversary with a month of giveaways….and now we’re back to business.  Each week we share a few of our favorite posts from the week before….

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