Bold Confidence
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There’s a difference between being cocky and being confident.
Cocky is thinking you’re better than everyone else. Confident is believing that you are smart, capable, and you believe in yourself. Cocky is thinking you’re a know it all, while confident is knowing that you don’t know it all and you’re okay with that. Cocky is stepping on people to get your way or “advance,” while confidence is supporting and encouraging and lifting others up while also being able to accept help when YOU need it.
I’ve actually struggled a lot with confidence over the years. It’s not something that has come very easy to me… but, as I get older, it’s an area I’ve worked to grow in. I think it honestly ebbs and flows… I feel more confident in some areas while I feel less confident in others. But, progress, not perfection, right?
And it’s also an area that sometimes I’ll feel like I’m doing great and I’m gaining confidence and really hitting my stride… but then something comes along and knocks me down and I have to build myself back up again.
Do you know what I mean?
Again, it’s a process.
Everyone said that your 30s is the decade where you really start to figure out who you are, what you are about, what you believe in, and gain a sense of self-worth and self-confidence that you didn’t have in your younger years.
While I’m only a couple years into my 30s now, I TOTALLY see where that is the case. Even after having two kids, I feel more confident in owning my body now at a size 14 than I EVER did at a size 8 or 10. I know that I am strong and I know what my body has been through. I appreciate it more!
I know that I’m not supposed to try to “fit” into a mold or a category or a “group.” That’s not me. I’m ME. I’m learning to have a bold confidence that can’t be broken and can’t be shaken.
What about you? Is confidence something you struggle with or something you embrace?
Love you my friend. I am in my 40’s and I still struggle with this especially during the holidays.
I definitely agree with you. I’ve had so much more confidence in my 30s. I struggled with confidence during my teenage years and started to find myself in my 20s. For me, I think having kids brought out my confidence.
I definitely feel you on the confidence issue, particularly with lack of confidence as part of “imposter syndrome” but I’m finding I’m so much more confident the more I pursue things I love and surround myself with wonderful people. Plus when I exude confidence I feel better in my decisions and leadership at work – fake it ’til I make it, basically 🙂 I love the message, Molly (and I love the outfit!) 😉
I love this look! I agree, confidence is something I have struggled with my whole life and there are ebbs and flows. Right now I think it does get easier as I get older and grow into myself. Jess at Just Jess
This is such a wonderful message and one that resonates so deeply with me. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve really had to work to hold on to and build my confidence, as impostor syndrome has sometimes eaten me alive! I can especially relate to having to build yourself up again after something comes along and knocks you down; I’m actually dealing with that right now. But you’re so right that confidence is a process and not perfection. Perhaps once we can really understand and accept that, it gets easier. Maybe not. But it’s worth a shot.
NCsquared Life
I’m with you, there are some areas that I’m very confident in and other I’m still working on. I learned a lot about me this past year and am still working to love and be confident in all the parts of me, good and bad. What I AM confident in is that I need that I need that bag!!
Being confident is definitely a process. I’m with you because some days I feel uber confident and other days are more like ehh. I definitely think I have grown to be very confident in myself over the years. It’s a blessing because it was a struggle when I was younger. By the way, love that blue clutch!